I had money saved and on paper was able to afford to be at home. But it didn't work, so I get where you are coming from.. I also wasn't soley BF so I was able to leave my DD..

I don't think anyone is going to tell you that you should have considered this before hand. It happens with the best laid plans..

What type of hrs does your DH do (I am sure I have read it before, but can't remember).. My DH is a shiftworker and just did not get how hard it is to find work around his hrs, especially when they change all the time..

I know you are in a small town, what services are in the town?